Tribute to my mom Mrs Saroj Tholiya on mother's day:
I had a different father and mother. And very firm and clear in their expectations. I was told never ever any one should knock our door with complaints against you, with claims, Noone should come saying you owe them anything. And they never ever asked anything from me. Not even a saree of suit forget about gold or anything else. I wanted parents to travel abroad but daddy refused to apply for passport. And I got mom's passport ready but she refused to go without daddy . I am that deprived son who could not do much for them as they had no needs and kwhahish. I kept my business, social and other activities such that no complaint of any kind happens and reaches them. I do not know as a lesser successful son any other parents were or are happy with their children ? But my parents not even once said we visited so and so house and see how beautiful it is , or in so and so marriage how much they spent or so and so has a costly car. They only cared for our name, our health, our habits. My dad was only more concerned abt how one should keep spine erect, how tummy should be tucked in, why not to eat late night, and so on. Mother was not allowing us to raise complaints against others or do any comparisons. She would say do not do any buraii / ill talk of anyone as then slowly we too learn same see only good of everyone. So she had good relations ( often one sided) with all tenants, neighbors, and others.
I do not know what kind of those ppl are who live lavish life but are regular defaulters, go to jail for quick money, enter a fray of living life style, and so on at the cost of health. Forget that even children commit suicide as parents force for achieving ( instead of setting example) . So on mothers day I once again remember my mother, simple, humble, living in ordinary way but with a smile attending everyone by sharing what she had instead of saving for a better living.
I had a different father and mother. And very firm and clear in their expectations. I was told never ever any one should knock our door with complaints against you, with claims, Noone should come saying you owe them anything. And they never ever asked anything from me. Not even a saree of suit forget about gold or anything else. I wanted parents to travel abroad but daddy refused to apply for passport. And I got mom's passport ready but she refused to go without daddy . I am that deprived son who could not do much for them as they had no needs and kwhahish. I kept my business, social and other activities such that no complaint of any kind happens and reaches them. I do not know as a lesser successful son any other parents were or are happy with their children ? But my parents not even once said we visited so and so house and see how beautiful it is , or in so and so marriage how much they spent or so and so has a costly car. They only cared for our name, our health, our habits. My dad was only more concerned abt how one should keep spine erect, how tummy should be tucked in, why not to eat late night, and so on. Mother was not allowing us to raise complaints against others or do any comparisons. She would say do not do any buraii / ill talk of anyone as then slowly we too learn same see only good of everyone. So she had good relations ( often one sided) with all tenants, neighbors, and others.
I do not know what kind of those ppl are who live lavish life but are regular defaulters, go to jail for quick money, enter a fray of living life style, and so on at the cost of health. Forget that even children commit suicide as parents force for achieving ( instead of setting example) . So on mothers day I once again remember my mother, simple, humble, living in ordinary way but with a smile attending everyone by sharing what she had instead of saving for a better living.
Happy are those who have such mother. You cant make mother happy by wrong acts so follow honest, hard working, healthy life style. And leave rest to god. Many on FB knew her well. Pl. hit back if even one single word is wrong or exaggerated.
Ashok Jain
ReplyDeleteMay 11 (5 days ago)
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I too join u Alok Ji, to paying Tributes to maa. She was a great persona. Very well described by u. Thanks for sharing.
Warm Regards
Ashok Jain