Sunday, March 16, 2014

My take on joint property:

My take on joint property:   With regard to Tholiya Bhavan
One of the great person in the family purchases a property. Circumstances are such that unable to divide property and thus becomes co owned / joint.
The person purchases have a typically fatherly wish that his all sons / grandsons live together.
But as time passes all members get spread out and hence no scope of living together. Long time passes and then the closeness / intimacy / tolerance become difficult.
Some become busy and some do not hv vision and others have greed, some have need and others do not hv, some are having enough flare and time for  litigation, some hv relative specially piharside of new daughter in laws who may misguide / intervene ….and so on and finally property becomes disputed. And once disputed then andha pise kutta khaye.
Police, advocates, courts make money. In Indian conditions courts take decades .
Ambani, Birla, Tata to all families have had disputes. But they hv army of lawyers and staff to assist so they do not hv to spend time. They hv more than enough so expenditure is not a burden.
But in other cases in smaller families those in service can not take leave, those abroad can not come frequently to take care of joint property, they can not attend court, many employer will not see it right if their staff is in court ( and many disputes take ugly turn and become criminal offence which no  govt, and multinational will like and remove the person. The value of the property may be good so everyone expects big fees/tips/bribe which one of the person may not b able to pay or may not wish to pay or may not know to pay but those who pay may still get cheated , waste whole life, increase BP/ Diabetes/ stress/ heart ailment / depression and so on.
Here is an attachment where some generation has passed and now they want to do transaction.  So we find whole family / several ppl r in court. As time passes the number of legal heirs increases and there is no understanding and tolerance between them and things become difficult. If some co owners  or their children r abroad then can they come to settle disputes, do transactions, ………..and so on.
Ball is in everyone‘s court. It is all co owners and their family members call. Take it or leave it.
Why I am taking initiative?
Since Dadaji’s death I hv alone  put in hard work, my precious time and huge money in solely taking care of this property on behalf of all so I wish that let all enjoy the fruits of same and let it not become a curse / burden for all of us.
Hope to receive your take / views on this issue. Incidentally shares are legally / finely / officially divided. Now there are only options as follows:  jointly develop or sell or sleep over it.


Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya,
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Sunday, March 2, 2014

The 2nd and final day of 60th B'day of Mrs Kala @ Nanded

And the second and final day arrived on 8th Feb. 2014 the 60 th B'day of my elder sister Sushama jiji.
Gazal, followed by warm memoirs from guests, appreciations speeches, toasts to her good health, future and family and so on then her friends sang some lovely songs and finally cake cutting.















memorable event by Kala's of Nanded

memorable event by Kala's of Nanded

In Feb 2014 v were attending gala celebration of 60th B'day of my sister at Nanded , Maharashtra.

V were picked up from station and taken home first in a chauffeur driven car/s.We were welocmed with tilak , Aarti, shawl .....etc.. Then had lunch in  her new ( still work in progress) 3 story  bungalow. Then taken to their one showroom and v skipped visit to their another shop and rushed to river side , visited a temple and then on river side we had early dinner of different kind of PONK/ HURDA, herbal bhel, khakhara, and other uncommon varieties followed by games. Then v rushed to have darshan of Gurudwara. The laser show their was hair raising as reminded of great scrifices done by our great Sikh Gurus. We all  bowed my head in their memory and joined in saying bole so nihal sat shri akal. Last photo here shows the traditional rangoli welcoming us in to their house.




 Tejal , college friend of my sister Sushma jij and  her husband specially came down for this event from US . 40 year old friendship but maintained day to day .

Eldest sister the director in pharma co. And Pintu bhaiya the chief coordinator of event



different bhel 

fresh green chole etc 

dadi maa and Tejal didi 

Jijaji and Pratik 

Eligible bachelors hv knack of giving stylish photo shoots 

my younger sister the bhua bhatiji in fun mood and missing my bhatijas 

 Myself, my wife, son and daughter 

before entering gurudwara


 rangoli